I lived a majority of my life doing ALL the things I was taught to do in order to be happy and live a life aligned with my religious traditions; marrying a woman, having children, serving endlessly in my church, having a career as a designer & educator and avoiding who I truly was as a closeted gay man. I kept a big part of me locked in a box that I didn’t know how to open. I was suffering to the point where I no longer wanted to live another day. Thankfully I had my three wonderful kids that gave me purpose to live for and find healing.

After lots of therapy, self-discovery, experiencing the dark night of the soul and finding community I was able to learn to love me for the first time in my life and unpack my box. I also discovered personal empowerment and how it feels to trust my intuition instead of trusting outside sources to tell me how to live and love. I understand loss of religious community, loss of friendships and even family relationships, as well as divorce. But through it all I learned I am loveable and that I love more whole-heartedly because I can be vulnerable. This healing and trust in myself allowed me to navigate dating, building relationship and falling in love with my amazing husband as well as be the kind of parent my kids really needed. I NEVER imagined it would be possible to be truly happy as a gay man and live my most vibrant life.

I found my own brand of spirituality and letting go of the shame that limited my growth and who I was created to be. I have learned volumes about recognizing my masculine and feminine energy, pleasure, intimacy, sensuality and sexuality that have re-mapped the shame and programming from our cultural and religious upbringing.

Taking all that I’ve learned through my lived experiences, 15+ years advising adults, and the last 5 years helping men like you walk through their transformation and into their truth. I would love to walk this path with you too!